Men in social society vs women- The science behind failure

 

"Why the World Keeps Failing: Broken Masculinity, Emotional Illiteracy, and the Lies That Keep Us All Stuck"

By T. Robinson, IHP 

🔍 Let’s Begin with the Science: Emotional Intelligence Isn’t Evenly Distributed

Across numerous cross-cultural studies, women consistently outperform men in nearly every dimension of emotional intelligence (EI). This includes:

  • Empathy

  • Self-awareness

  • Emotion regulation

  • Interpersonal relationships

  • Conflict resolution

A 45-country meta-analysis published in Intelligence (2020) found that while men score slightly higher in emotional understanding as a cognitive function, women consistently excel in emotional application—the actual regulation, empathy, and human connection needed to maintain healthy relationships, families, and societies.

Let’s be honest: emotion is not weakness—it’s governance.
And in a world where most men have been taught to suppress emotion, deny vulnerability, and weaponize logic, we keep electing and uplifting emotional infants in adult bodies.

🧠 How Testosterone Interferes with Connection

Now to the biology.

Testosterone, while essential for muscle growth, drive, and certain forms of courage, has a dark twin effect:
➡️ It reduces empathy and impulse control.
➡️ It promotes dominance and aggression.
➡️ It dampens affective emotional processing in the brain.

In one peer-reviewed study (Brain and Behavior, 2018), researchers discovered that testosterone deactivates regions in the brain responsible for social empathy, particularly in men with underdeveloped emotional support systems. Simply put, the more testosterone, the less emotional accessibility—unless actively trained otherwise.

So when men say, “We just don’t feel like y’all do,”—they’re not entirely wrong.

But here’s the part they don’t say: they don’t want to do the work to grow beyond that.
Because that would mean accountability. Vulnerability. Consistency.

And patriarchy never made space for that in their emotional diet.

🏛️ Power, Corruption & The Masculine Empire: Why Men Break Societies

From Mesopotamia to the modern military-industrial complex, male-dominated power structures have built and broken civilizations. Let’s run it down:

  • Every major war in recorded history? Initiated by male leaders.

  • Global child sex trafficking? 96% of buyers are men.

  • Mass shootings? Over 98% committed by men.

  • Religious crusades, colonization, slavery, manifest destiny, and genocide? Male-founded, male-funded, male-defended.

This isn’t about hating men. This is about naming the pattern.

Wherever women are oppressed, unheard, or relegated to breeding and housework, you will find decay.
Wherever men are allowed unchecked power with no emotional accountability, you will find violence.

👩🏾‍🦱 When Women Become Corrupt, It’s Usually by Male Design

Now let’s be clear: yes, women can be corrupt. But that corruption is usually:

  • Co-opted by patriarchal systems,

  • Driven by survival in male-defined worlds, or

  • Mimicking male behaviors to gain power.

Look at most toxic “boss chick” culture today—it’s a mirror of hypermasculinity, not feminine empowerment.

Give women actual sovereignty rooted in their own design—nurturing, community, intellect, spiritual clarity—and societies thrive.
We’ve seen it in matrilineal systems like the Akan in Ghana, the Mosuo of China, and Native nations before colonization.

But strip women of safety, access, or voice—and even the most balanced become either submissive or strategic survivors in male-made warzones.

👶🏾 Fatherless Homes? Husbandless Wives? Men Built That, Too.

Don’t let the internet fool you.

The epidemic of “fatherless homes” isn’t because women are difficult.
It’s because many men never learned how to stay, how to lead without control, how to love without ego.
They were taught:

  • Sex is power.

  • Emotion is weakness.

  • Leaving is easier than learning.

And because society doesn’t hold them accountable—they leave legacies of broken homes and ask women to raise nations alone.

🧨 Why Societies Fail (or Grow) – And Who's Always in Charge When It Happens

History is an evidence trail.

When men lead from domination, societies collapse:

  • Rome.

  • Nazi Germany.

  • The Confederate South.

  • Afghanistan under Taliban rule.

  • The United States… on the brink.

When men lead alongside women, from emotional wisdom, intuitive governance, and communal values—societies grow:

  • Ancient Kemet

  • The Iroquois Confederacy

  • Ubuntu-based communities in Southern Africa

  • Kerala, India (where women lead education and healthcare decisions)

The pattern is simple: unchecked male power without emotional training = ruin.
Balanced power with feminine presence = restoration.

Part Two: When Focus Without Feeling Becomes a Threat

🧠 1. Emotional Intelligence: A Gender Gap Backed by Meta-Science

A comprehensive meta-analysis of 716 peer-reviewed studies confirms that women outperform men in core emotional intelligence (EI), especially in other-focused emotional skills like empathy and emotional understanding. RedditMDPI+4Academy of Management Journals+4Reddit+4

Another key study of over 500 adolescents showed girls outscored boys in emotional and meta-emotional intelligence. Boys consistently overestimate their emotional competence, while girls tend to underreport theirs—even when their performance proves higher. PubMed+1ScienceDirect+1

🔬 2. Testosterone: The Hormone That Weakens Connection

🚫 Cognitive Empathy

A placebo-controlled experiment administering testosterone to women resulted in measurable declines in cognitive empathy—the skill of interpreting others’ emotional states—even when prenatal hormone markers were adjusted. PMC+3PMC+3WIRED+3

⚠️ Increased Aggression, Decreased Regulation

A rigorous meta-analysis reviewing baseline and manipulated testosterone (T) found a modest but statistically significant correlation between higher T and increased aggression in men (r ≈ 0.071). Effects in women were negligible. PubMed

🧠 Trauma & Domestic Violence

Perpetrators of intimate partner violence exhibited higher baseline testosterone, greater baseline anger/anxiety, poorer emotional recognition, and impaired cognitive flexibility—neuropsychological hallmarks of low empathy. PubMed

🌍 3. What Happens When Emotionless Focus Drives Decision-Making

The combination of high testosterone and low emotional awareness often leads men toward dominance without reflection. A foundational study at Utrecht University showed elevated testosterone reduced trust in social interactions—even when other factors (gender, culture) were controlled. WIRED

These biological tendencies—when unhealed—manifest in global violence, intimate abuse, and political instability.

🤯 4. Why Society Pays the Price

Patriarchal systems prioritize agency (problem-solving, power, control) over communion (connection, care, collaboration). A landmark investigation into leadership styles revealed women’s higher emotional intelligence mediates their advantage in transformational leadership, while men’s agency doesn’t compensate for emotional deficit. PubMed+15MDPI+15PubMed+15

Studies also show societies that lean heavily masculine in governance experience higher domestic violence, lower mental health, and social fragmentation.

⚡ 5. A Hard Truth in a Long Line of Evidence

While men may excel at focused problem-solving, their lower capacity for emotional regulation and empathy creates a measurable risk—from domestic violence to societal conflict.

“While men often excel in focused problem-solving, they tend to lack emotional intelligence and regulation — a gap that poses a natural threat of violence. This emotional deficit doesn’t just echo in broken homes, but scales into domestic abuse, political instability, and global war.”

🌱 What Healing Must Contain

We’re talking about a spiritual and emotional reset:

  • Training men in emotional literacy through mentorship, therapy, ancestral rites.

  • Elevating women into leadership—not mimic masculine rules, but lead from empathy, communion, and insight.

  • Re-centering families and communities around emotional education, not just transactional productivity.

Healing isn’t just reclaiming power—it’s reorienting how power is felt, processed, and shared.


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